Nothing is impossible to achieve if there is a will and a genuine desire of both parties to the conflict to create a harmonious life in a relationship as a family member.
• When observed carefully, the life of a family is like the life of a country, certainly in the context of a smaller scale. Therefore, there would be a period in which the life of facing the challenges and obstacles that come from within and from outside, and various efforts will be done in order to maintain its integrity.
There are interesting here, because the family is like the life of a country, if there is a dispute, efforts are usually done by a country it also can be applied in domestic life, and efforts are commonly referred to as "accommodation" .
Literally, the term "property" itself is, "Human efforts to defuse the dispute or conflict to achieve stability." Related parties in conflict then meet to conform with existing state and then work together to create a harmonious life back. Well, if a country in conflict can be returned along with the effort of accommodation, how the "state" smaller is family? Nothing is impossible to achieve if there is a will and a genuine desire of both parties to the conflict to create a harmonious life in a relationship as a family member. There are 12 accommodation efforts that can be done to relieve the ongoing conflict, and 12 of these efforts are:
• 1. The ceasefire
Couples who are fighting or two families who are fighting for a moment can do "ceasefire", for a certain period of time that should not be disturbed, to seek appropriate solutions on how to resolve the problems being faced.
• 2. Arbitration
Is solving problems involving third parties as a conduit of decisions that must be adhered to and accepted by both parties in conflict, and as the mediator can be done by parents, siblings, or judge.
• 3. Mediation
Cessation of disputes by a third party for a moment, but did not give a binding decision. For example, mediation conducted to couples in conflict with the goal to find a middle ground that can be agreed upon by both parties in the middle of the conflict in order to reunite.
• 4. Conciliation
That is an attempt to reconcile the desire of each party to the conflict in order to reach mutual agreement.
• 5. stalemate
That is a state in which both parties in conflict have the same power, then deadlock "can not go forward or backward", stalemate usually can occur in cases of child custody, or seizure of inheritance
• 6. Adjudication
Is how to resolve the problem when there is a dispute in court.
• 7. Elimination
The resignation of one of the parties in conflict are usually characterized by an attitude budge.
• 8. Subjugasi or domination
Namely the situation where one party has a greater power or dominate, to force others to obey. Thereby not recommended to solve the problem because it would harm others.
9.Majority rule
Regulation of the majority, it is usually done by voting to make decisions, and sound terbanyaklah that must be adhered together.
• 10 Minority consent
Namely, the victory of the majority who accepted gracefully by minorities, but in this case did not feel defeated minority or disadvantaged and agreed to cooperate with the majority.
• 11. Compromise
That is, an attempt to find a middle ground that will must be obeyed by the parties that are involved in the conflict.
• 12. Integration
Namely, business solve problems by discussing, reviewing, and reconsider the opinion of any related parties in order to obtain a decision that forced all parties in conflict to comply.
In the domestic life disagree is a common thing, but if someday conflicts try not to let it drag on. It takes an attitude of humility and long-suffering, so that harmony will always you can feel with your partner in a family unit intact and happy.
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