When chatting with friends or family, do not confuse attention with staring at the phone screen. Telungkupkan moment and focus to the chat.
Try to remember, while you're having lunch with your comrades, how do you put in your mobile phone on the table? Do you put it with the screen facing up or down? It turned out that this simple choice behavior has meaning not simple.
According to an article in thenextweb.com site, there are two categories of mobile phone users, which are placed the cell phone with the screen facing up and they were put with the screen facing down. Apparently, the way we put the phone on the table with regard to how committed we are to be in the moment with others in the real world, both physically and mentally.
When we're hanging out with close friends, almost certainly we will consider seriously the words in a chat with them. However, when we are together with some people that we consider less interesting conversation, almost certainly we automatically begin to play with each mobile phone to find something else more enjoyable.
In the real world, in certain circumstances we are required to prioritize and appreciate the people who are present with us. However, with the advent of smart phone technology, why our attention to those people so easily distracted? The answer is that in cyberspace we have a choice to do just something we want to do. There is no necessity in it.
According to the study, the behavior of the people in the virtual world show more based on self-gratification factor, namely the things that can please ourselves. Think about it, when did you last do something in cyberspace because you feel it is the right thing to do? It is rare indeed.
In the real world, similar rules do not apply. We "should" behave. We "have to" pretend listening even though we are not interested. In the real world there are many things we do as a necessity, not an option as it is more often the case in cyberspace.
Have you ever talked to someone for 5 minutes without the person's release from his eyes clutched the phone screen? The phenomenon that is now prevalent.
To establish social relationships deeper than just exchanged greetings on Facebook alone, we need to be people who want to put a cell phone with the screen facing down. Why is that? By putting your phone with the screen facing down, indirectly we have put a damper on the distraction the same time reduce the need of self-gratification.
Yes, the man who put the phone with the screen facing up tend to be more easily distracted by other things more interesting than his friends who sat with him at the time. Because when chatting lunch the real world, it is good we change behavior by turning the phone facedown.
Quite simply, when we are talking or hanging out with some friends, we also want to be rewarded with the full attention of the interlocutors, is not it?
