Problems in Children of pressure Perfectionism -
Help them understand that hope to be 100% in all the time is not realistic and that no one can continuously achieve it.
Parents naturally have desires to see his children great in the activity. But what if a child is required to be great more than just the desire, the desire is not required for perfection? This is when we as parents need to act and help our children learn to cope with their stress and keperfeksionisan.
Here are some suggestions that can be used that might help.
Talk to your child about what caused him to be depressed
If possible, help them break from the pressure to do something fun or going out with family while and then come back with a clear mind. Ask your child to make a record. Writing is a therapy and can help a child to work when feeling depressed.
If the pressure caused by events such as exams or greeting ...
... Help and reassurance your child to deal with pressure situations with confidence.
Help your child learn relaxation techniques ...
... Such as deep breathing slowly, listening to soothing music, go for a walk, or taking a break to clear their minds.
Help your child understand that everything is not always black and white
As a perfectionist, this is a tough concept to grasp. I think that if I am not perfect, so I was the one who failed. But life is not like that and this is the reason why the parents should help their children cope.
Challenge your children's confidence and reason
If they say, "I will forget my solo performances and the whole auditorium will laugh at me." You say, "You will never forget it and the whole auditorium was never laugh at anyone as long as we have attended pertunjukannmu." Help them understand the error in their minds.
Help your child to understand the impact of negative thinking and teach them how to speak positively ...
... Like, "No one is perfect." No one is good in all respects. "Or" Everyone makes mistakes. "
Print a positive footage of the error and then place in the refrigerator door or in your child's room
This could include, "The biggest mistake you can make is constantly afraid to do it." By Elbert Hubbard. "Anyone who has never made a mistake never tried anything new." By Albert Einstein. "Or" Mistakes are a fact of life. This is the response to error. "By Nikki Giovanni. This footage will serve as a reminder to your child that mistakes are good, and will give them permission to make it not as a failure.
Help to reduce procrastination to teach your child about priorities ...
... To divide it into tasks that can be handled as well as they could finish it without feeling overwhelmed. Often, the fear of a child is a failure even before they begin.
Make a schedule and teach your child to apply
If your child understand that they are restricted for 2 hours to do their homework, this will stop them from suffering through the night.
Help your child set realistic expectations for themselves ...
... And make sure that you also set realistic expectations for them. Help them understand that hope to be 100% in all the time is not realistic and that nobody can continuously achieve it. Festive your child to make the question, "What's the worst that could happen?" "What is the best thing that could happen?" "What things are most likely to occur?" These questions will help them put things into perspective.
Always check
Make sure that your child does not get pressure and perfectionist nature by following your guidelines.
Make sure that your child gets enough sleep ...
... Sports, and a well balanced diet. Good body balance affect the balance of the mind.
Pressure and perfectionism can weaken children. But with the help of casing affection and support of the parents, and the appropriate balance and guidance, a child with perfectionist tendencies can find true happiness and success.
source:
"Tips for dealing with stress and perfectionism" by Tiffany Fletcher.
